Saturday, March 8, 2008

The joy in failure!

I think most people have different ideas about what success is, and when they don't get it, they quit. I always find it fascinating when I hear a story about someone who seems to be living life exactly the way they want, but that it took many attempts to get there and it wasn't all just a cake walk.

Last year I read "If Success is a Game, These are the Rules" by Cherie Carter-Scott.

Cherie Carter-Scott really knows her stuff! Here is an excerpt from her book that really stood out for me, and made me realize that... there is an order of things that have to happen before you can really, truly live life the way you want.

"Success and failure are as intricately entwined as the moon and the tide, the mountains and the valleys, and the sunshine and the rain. .......
There is sound reason behind the adage that claims you cannot know the sweetness of success unless you have tasted the bitterness of failure. You cannot fully appreciate the joy of fulfillment unless you have traveled through the eye of adversity, been seriously defeated by setbacks, or had the crushing wave of disappointment knock you down so that you actually considered not getting up again.

Setbacks are what build character. They are what separate the lucky from the truly successful. It is not the person who wins the first time out of the gate who demonstrates strength, stamina, wisdom, and grit. Rather, it is the one who has run before and narrowly missed the finish line---who runs with all he or she is worth. Such people are the ones for whom victory tastes the sweetest." - Cherie Carter Scott

Failing is inevitable at some point, and it is how you handle that failure and what you decide to do with it, that will strengthen your character.

So, go out and who cares if you fail! As Benjamin Franklin so honestly puts it,

"I didn't fail the test, I just found 100 ways to do it wrong"

The quicker you learn that failure is not the end all, be all- the quicker you will succeed in whatever it is you want to do.

Dan Lier , "The 10 Minute Coach" advises "Fail as much as you can, as fast as you can."

In his book he made the analogy that if you knew it would take 10 times to fail before you would succeed and finally get it right- wouldn't you try to get those 10 "failures" out of the way as quick as possible so that you could get to succeeding? I know I would!

Even though we don't know the exact number of times we will fail before we finally "get it" We know that if we keep pushing and working at it, then eventually we will succeed!

So, once again,hurry and go fail to succeed!:)